I had a whole different post lined up to go out today but after the news that broke out yesterday and everything that happened after it I felt like it was important for my blog today to be something different
Yesterday Kim Jongdae, Chen from EXO, announced that he had a girlfriend that he loved and wanted to spend the rest of his life with and that she was pregnant. Immediately the reactions started to poor in. EXO-Ls were divided into two categories: those who were surprised and extremely happy for Jongdae and supportive of him and those who were surprised and were angry and wanted him to leave the group. The second group from what I can see, and I could be wrong, is mostly made up of Korean EXO-Ls.
Jongdae choose to reveal his relationship through the Fanclub on the Lysn app. He wrote a letter to the fans that shows how mature he is and how scared he is of the hit back he knew was going to happen. After all he has seen it before when Heechul’s relationship was exposed a couple of weeks ago, he saw it when it happened to Kai and when it happened to Baekhyun. He saw what happened to Sungmin from Super Junior when he announced his marriage. Kpop fans especially Korean ones are not kind.
If you look in the Lysn app you will see that most of the basic members who happen to be international members of the fanclub are shocked but happy for Jongdae while the ACE members, who are for the most part Korean re asking Jongdae to leave EXO. I want to talk about the ACE membership. For the most part most international members don’t pay for the ACE membership mainly because the benefits that are included in the pain membership favors Korean members more than international fans (concert tickets and what not) but if we are going to discuss how much international fans pay when they order albums and the cost of shipping most international fans pay more than the yearly membership that these ACE members do. Why do I bring this up? Because the ACE members keep telling basic members to shut up since they didn’t pay for the ACE membership.
I have something to say so listen up ACE members. You bought a membership into the official fan club to get at tickets early, for a chance to get into fan signings and to get a chance at chatting with the members online. YOU DID NOT BUY THE MEMBERS’ PERSONAL LIVES. Their lives are their own. They have the right to love and be loved. They have the right to spend their lives with whomever they want as long as they are both consenting adults. I’m going to say the same to any other Kpop fan who thinks that they own the idol they Stan. No that idol is not going to marry you he dean’s know you exist. No that idol doesn’t have to love the person you ship them with just because you say so. THEY ARE HUMAN NOT PRETTY PIECES OF CARDBOARD THAT YOU DO WITH AS YOU PLEASE.
Now that I got that off my chest there is one other thing I want all Kpop fans to think about. Why do you think so many idols suffer from depression? Why do you think so many of them think of suicide (like Sungmin did after announcing his marriage)? Why do you think many of them commit suicide (we just lost two idols recently)? Did you ever think it is because their every move is scrutinized? Did you ever think it was because they are so afraid that their personal lives are going to be exposed by the likes of Dispatch and over zealous fans like the ones who mobbed Chanyeol and Sehun in Vietnam and the airport employee who leaked their passport information?
These are not things that are just there for you to look at because they are so pretty and they sing. They are humans beings with feelings and desires, they love and want to be loved, they get hurt and get scared just like the rest of us and they make mistakes too. It is time to grow up and protect the idols you love not destroy them.
No comments:
Post a Comment